Today the choices are… Meet someone at work; meet them at a bar; or a chance meeting at the laundromat or grocery store. A lot of hurdles to get to know someone, but dating sites say, “Come we All want someone. Meet them here!”

But remember each site needs money to run. Each site will claim they are the best in the business in one form or the other. They will have you start the signup procedure and get your information and then not let you SEE or respond to anyone until you give them money. Be warned.

But those things we pretty much expect in this financial downturn. Companies looking for money.

The things that hurt are the personal frauds. The men that lie and say they are single when they are married. The women who expect ownership of the men they chat with or get hostile and turn to stalking. 

First and foremost know that the first few people you meet on a site most likely will be the desperates. A greater chance of psychos, exists the faster they say.. “You’re beautiful & sexy.” Or “I can’t think of anything but to get you into bed.” Complements right off the bat are a BIG RED FLAG that this is a player.

I would guess close to 80% of men online are looking for an easy roll in the hay. I would say the same percentage of women are looking for a Prince Charming to come and rescue them from their current situation. 

That leaves a very narrow margin of sincere lookers who are ready to even seek compatibility. So everyone is hit with the players & desperates right out the gate, making the true seekers cautious and eventually they pull away.

Dating online is not for the feint of heart. Rejection is always there. Perceptions and rash judgements are made by both parties, but that is ok. You don’t need to be accepted by everyone!

Let me say that again! “You don’t need to be accepted by everyone!” This is NOT a popularity contest. 

The faster you can sort through the thousands upon thousands, being yourself, the greater the chance you are going to find that one-n-only. You don’t want everyone to like you. You want the ONE that “GETs you” to find you. 

Always be honest and let the chips fall where they may. Don’t spend forever clawing through profile after profile, just devote maybe a few minutes a day and make sure you say Hi to at least 3.

Don’t expect responses. Just get over the need to be accepted. Maybe someone you liked will like you…maybe not…but if you don’t reach out you have increased the odds of you finding each other. Chat is good.

If they refuse to give you their number, last name, email, and address after a week or so of chats online…they are probably married. If they are distrustful, they are either hurt from past experiences or are married. The dishonest believe everyone else is dishonest.

Hope is for the ONE. Not just anyone. Remember a true noble quest is not a fast food order. *smile*

Enjoy the journey, Hugs, Pam