Category: Interpersonal Relationships

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BurnOut Millennials

On By Pamala CliftIn Business, Education, Interpersonal Relationships, Philosopher comments on RealityLeave a comment

It is impossible. Don’t believe what you’ve been told. The old ways do not work and the new ways are wrong!

From one baby boomer to the millennials, I have so much sympathy for the position you are in. There is no way to make your life feel right as long as you are trying to duplicate your parents vision. A new culture needs to be created. It will be messy, but if you are going to survive, a new game with meaning needs to be created.

College is not working. Starting life with burdening debt because you have been handed the idea that college equals a satisfactory life, is as much a fairytale as The Three Bears. May I suggest maybe shadowing apprenticeships with online tutors. “Doing” will be more functional than the ancient “Answering A, B, or C” question components.

As a divorced female who was married under the “Fred Flintstone mentality of “men rule”, then left with nothing,” l think I have a glimmer of what you’re suffering. The goal to just survive seems elusive. Where can you live that doesn’t cost more than what you make in service jobs? Service jobs are devalued, but service is to humanity and so our humanity is being devalued!

It is very much like the servitude that the miners had working all the time and owing more to the company store than they made. You are imprisoned! There is no time for you, and when there is a hope of seeing light the game shifts and your expertise has evaporated.

Jobs are less and less human oriented and algorithms are replacing jobs. We have lost humanity! We have devalued mothers. (The essential component for the species to survive) in favor of contributing to this “make money” illusion of value. Get rid of that component first! Money is an illusion (proven by all the blockchain currencies out there).

Since my experience (out of order for the time) was a female in computing I have experienced the social media evolution from the beginning. From the first instant communication programs of Kermit to the mess of the competing “Look at me” apps we have today, they are isolating, not socializing and are again just another illusion.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for stories. Stories are what give life purpose. All cultural stories are illusions, we simply need to create our own and not buy into those Illusions handed to us by those who benefit from our conversion.

I remember when another Agile project manager set me aside and walked me through the question, “What is important in your life?” We made a list. Then he had me list what I was doing with my time. (The one and only nonnegotiable component of existence.) Was the life I was living in harmony with what I thought important? Boy was that an eye opener!

I had been catering and assisting with other people’s goals and ideas thinking that somewhere along the line I would get recognized. (No one mentors any more.) It’s all about “Me”, and since that target is always moving, having helpers is necessary. The best you can do is #2. There is no way being the number two dog in an organization will get you to your goal. It will be their goal.

I can see the evolution that has taken place and society’s shift down the rabbit hole. I have been written off in the current society, but that’s ok…I have written off society.

I now live in my own world of value. Got a minimum income and live with a $300 mortgage, but that was both a miracle and a multi-year project to create, allowing me to ignore most of the societal illusions.

Millennials get rid of your burn outs; make your lists, and create that society that allows you to thrive. Don’t let them force you into misery.

Sorry I won’t be around to help but you have my best wishes for an impactful journey!

Hugs, Pam

End-of-Life Partner: Older Relationships

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With a new hosting service I decided to test out this wordpress theme before I transfer over 100+ blog posts. So here goes my test blog on older relationships.

When you are seeking a relationship at an older age, say, sometime after your family has been raised: Is marriage a good thing or bad?

Marriage is a cultural-supporting commitment that insures the two of you will stay together to finish raising a family. (We mostly go into this relationship thinking it is FOREVER) The bottom line is: No one should leave the other one with more obligations and no additional support. Families are a huge undertaking.

This commitment is supported by our culture, which also does not believe such a circumstance should occur, hence they have family court to even out the playing field…supposedly.
So Marriage in today’s terms is a 3 party commitment and a legal term inviting the country’s laws into a couple’s relationship.

If a division must follow you are obligated to go through this 3rd party before a seperation can occur. Everything is exposed and displayed in court records about who did what, or the least, who gets to pay what.

Does marriage have anything really to do with the couple’s vows to each other? Not really. Nothing is displayed in any record keeping location as to what you promised each other. Yet, we continue to label ONLY the 3 party commitment as marriage?

I have heard absolutely horrendous family-court resolutions that fail miserably on both fairness and amicability. Family court is ruled by unchallengeable god-like entities with no oversight options at all. This alone would be a huge hiccup for anyone considering marriage at any age.

The family court system needs options for outside arbitration, which does not mean only the one with the most caustic personality and most money wins. When you’re married in today’s society you are inviting this unsettling 3rd party into your beloved relationship.

So as an older person seeking companionship your concern is not really wishing to legally compel your chosen to stay with you, as much as it is to not have either of your finances trashed by health issues of your new companion, nor remove options for your children’s inheritance.

As it stands now, if you marry, you are legally compelled to pay the medical debts of your husband/wife. As I always say, “We are all inhabiting a deteriating biological unit with an expiration date.” None of us know how long that will be or how things will go, but if we are not hiding our heads in the sand, we have to acknowledge that you must have an acceptable exit strategy.

As a senior, hopefully we have learned a few things in life as to what is important. Companionship IS important. There are many scientific studies proving that those alone will die sooner than those with a companion’s support.

We would naturally be seeking to find someone compatible and honest. When we find that elusive someone, commitment is desired along with cohabitating arrangements. Does that need marriage?

I have coined the phrase “End of Life Partner”. This might not seem all that romatic, but it definitely says what is expected. Someone who will be with you when you have to be in the hospital. Someone who assists you with remembering your pills or reads the small print when you forgot your glasses. This is someone who cares for you enough to ride that slippery slope toward exitinction with your concerns foremost in their mind. Having a medical advocate when you’re not conscious is a priceless commodity.

So instead of blindly inviting the 3rd party of unconsciousable-fluctuating-societal overlords into your relationship, set up the terms and expectations of your End of Life Partnership.

In my circumstances, I owned the house and created a will that allows him to stay on (if I pass) by simply paying the mortgage and upkeep until he passes or leaves. The property would then transfer to my children.

Now he pays a monthly rent, has his own room, mailbox, bank accounts and debts. We share only what we wish with each other and there is nothing other than our verbal commitment and desire that keeps us together.

What I have discovered is that I am less of a nag. I don’t yell at him because he spends his money on stuff I believe is ill advised. I do not own any of his assets/debt so their is no consequences for me to endure, hence I am left with “Fine, just fine.” when my opinion has been disregarded. We move on.

Our only requirement of each other is to create a will and medical advisories so that we can follow through on the other’s wishes.

Being there for each other and honestly communicating both good and bad feelings is huge enough. Anyone who has been in any kind of a relationship, knows that reaching a mutual acceptable compatible living arrangement is not simple. It is very personal, complex and important.

Worrying if you can support a person who may fall into Alzheimer’s three months after you made a marriage commitment is not something you should have to consider. Such a poor future-predicting decision could rob you of your lifetime savings and living arrangements, not only leaving you without the companion you desired, but without hope of sustainability.

So choosing and End of Life Partner, vowing to each other what you wish to share and coming up with proper living expectations is very personal and very God-like commitment to each other’s service. If you are religious and believe you are committing sin by committing to another’s service without expectation, consider a new religion.

Enjoy the journey.

Hugs, Pam

Nature vs #MeToo

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Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, October 06, 2018 11:01 AM

We are all trying to get closer to nature with our food and work-life balance. We understand that fighting nature is a huge uphill battle.

We seek forest walks, the vistas over water or mountains, clean food, trying to get back to our proper place on this spinning globe. Now if we truly value nature and seek to understand our place. There are some very valuable facts that need to be considered.

Men are physically stronger than women. That is a fact, not speculation. (Of course there are exceptions)

We also know that nature does some major changes in both male and female children during that horrible state known as teenager hood . Arrgh! Controlling this state of our human growth cycle isn’t probable. Hormones surge and wain as teenagers try to figure out who they are.

This was obvious enough that in our courts, criminal offenses done before turning 18 are not considered part of your adult record.

Now we have the #MeToo movement saying a man is guilty vs memories from a hormonal female about a hormonal male doing teenager stuff that was not even a crime had he been an adult? Sigh.(Kavanaugh)

This is what I would like to have as a take away from this whole crazy episode. Females are rabbits. Males are coyotes.

Everyone should teach their daughters that they need to brace for males as a possibly uncontrollable force of nature. Just like not jumping off a mountain ledge. You don’t hold gravity responsible for your damage?

Young males are coyotes. Not because they choose this, but because nature knows that if a rabbit runs, the coyote will chase. Education can possibly slow this, but we can not count on it.

As women we should know entering this stage of life needs to be prepared for as a battle. We don’t dress to raise that hormonal tidal wave and increase our possibility of nature trumping cultural restrains.

We don’t go putting ourselves in the lair of the coyotes (especially with inhibition-lowering components such as drugs and alcohol) and expect to come out unscathed.

I’m all for the #MeToo movement within reason. I have, and my daughters have been violated wrongly because we are females. We are rabbits and we live amid coyotes. I hate being the victim because I am not the physically stronger gender. Men using their power of position to take advantage or forcefully gratifying their needs on the weaker sex, needs to be curtailed. But we women need to help. It isn’t ALL their fault.

If the rabbit didn’t run, the coyote most likely wouldn’t have chased.

We need to be aware of our environment and the natural world we exist in, and not blindly think we have a fairy God Mother who will make everything ok.

Islam puts the fault that men’s hormones run wild- all on women. Women should be curtailed from being seen so that the poor male’s hormones don’t have their energies redirected. Most of us can see how wrong that view point is…

So we have the pendulum now going the other way with the #MeToo movement. It is all on the men to master their hormones.

Ok, gals… master your monthly cycle right now… stop crying, stop feeling the way you feel. Your irrationality around this time of the month needs to STOP!… That is not likely to happen either. Mostly because during that time of the month THINKING is not the dominate component. The same thing goes for guys.

This is the natural world we live in. We are animals of this construct. We need to help each other deal with things that are outside our cultural norms and conflict with natural impulses.

Do your best not to blame just one side. We are all on this journey together!

Hugs, Pam

Pronoun Relationships

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by Pamala Clift (1st posted Thursday, Oct. 4, 2018 2:57 pm)

What do pronouns have to do with relationships?

So “I” is the most often used pronoun these days, with the “Its all about Me”, social media craze.

There are good things about taking ownership of your own feelings and stating them clearly.

“I would like you to take me to dinner.” “I feel ignored.”

Taking ownership of your feelings is better than accusing. “You don’t love me.”  …but that’s a whole other blog post-plus in itself.

But how can you use pronouns for identifying if there is potential relationship possibilities? 

It’s amazing as I talk to contacts, family and my own relationships what there is about Pronouns, especially when there are problems needing solving. When do things switch from the independent identity to a functional couples identity?

1. A guy that says, “Don’t worry about it. I will take care of it.” Is a dominate relationship, meaning you must always subjugate yourself to him. That’s awesome if he is competent, and never-growing-up and playing princess the rest of your life is your goal. However, that won’t stay the same. He will eventually want a new younger prettier princess, or you might develop an interest and competency that makes you need his say so less, so he loses his princess. So for long term this might not be the relationship to seek.

2. A guy that constantly says, “You handle it.” or “Don’t worry it will all work out fine.” but turns things over to happenstance. Well, he is either supportive of your growth, or he is lazy. He is thinking that the problem isn’t worth his effort. He is either dismissing you or he is living in his own fairy tale world where your main concern should be about him. If it is not about him than handle it yourself, even if it is about your joint residence or children.

This might leave you seeing the back of his head while he is watching sports, video games or left for the golf course. This could very well be the guy who wants to sleep with his mom. In other words, he is only interested in the perks of the relationship. He is not interested in fulfilling obligations or promises. If you wish to “take care” of someone all your life this might work, but don’t plan on ever being appreciated for doing so. You become his “left arm”. In other words, nobody every thanks their left arm for doing what it is supposed to do. You are just an extension of him.

3. Then comes the out-of-the-blue guy who when you express a problem he says, “We’ll work it out.” He uses the plural! OMG, he is taking the position that between the two of you there will be ways to make things work. No longer is it You or I, but We! That is the first sign that couple-hood is plausible.

Sometimes “WE” is said but it is still you that has to work it out. If you find that happening all the time it can be a delusional play by guy number two as he fools himself that he is contributing, so still watch for that. 

So the bottom line is look for the pronouns. There is only one out of 3 options that might work.

Enjoy the Journey! Hugs, Pam

“No” is Not Bad!

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Interesting watching this generation in America, they have never learned to say “NO” or even tolerated hearing it.

“No” is a word that is avoided today. You must say things nicely. Beg for your way so that eventually all will come about with a win/win for everyone.

My friend has started teaching again in a school where “No” has never been said. Adults have no power, no authority, no experience, no respect.

“I will tell my Mom.” is paraded out in front as parents come running to their child’s defense at every perceived inconvenience. The child is always right, because his/her feelings have gotten hurt.

We now have Universities that can’t teach, because someone somewhere may hear a word that makes them feel uncomfortable.

No rules are valid but the child’s desires. 

Where in real life is everything poofy, soft and nice? Why is that expected? We are not preparing this next generation for understanding that life is not cushy and there are consequences. How is that good?

This type of belief causes horrible consequences as children who have never heard anything negative are targeted by a troll online who starts picking on them.  They end up committing suicide. They don’t know how to deal with negativity. They have no internal scales to judge. No restraints on their emotions, no tools to deal with reality, let alone social media. 

Parents spend without considering consequences. No savings just debt, turn on water, electricity usage wastefully… A buy and throw away mentality that says MY needs are more important than anyone else, or the environment. A mindset that when we get to the edge will fall off most drastically.

If there is a God, (for which ‘evil’ is used as proof that their isn’t a God in some minds)…there are pluses and minuses. A lion wishes to eat, you are available to be eaten, hence there will be something negative that takes place for someone. Some believe there can’t be a God cause something negative happens and label it evil.

Consequences equals if you do X than Y may very well occur, but they are ignored. If you jump off the roof, you most likely will fall and break something, has to be taught. We are giving up our freedom, our ability to make decisive decisions because we are afraid to say no.

Instead we fall into the “Somebody-should-have-protected-me mode.” How this has gotten preferential cultural acceptance is truly a mystery. We claim everything is nice and have movies and games that show killing sprees and destruction as a fun hobby. Me is the most important. If I do it, than it is alright. Self indulgences is the focus.

So why is it the gun’s fault? I can have what I want, destroy what I want and you’re not supposed to tell me no.  

Learning NO is imperative! Having respect for those that try to teach you that is vital. 

“Tell the maniac to get on the ground”, doesn’t work in real anymore than it did in the movies. The culture doesn’t teach self-restraint.

The other movie quote most often quoted in my mind, “Life is pain, princess. Anyone telling you different is trying to sell you something.” That is why we have so much horrible spending on a commodity that does nothing… insurance.

We believe insurance will save us…but anyone with actual claims can tell you otherwise. They have learned to say NO, which only increases their pocketbook.

Saying NO, is not a bad thing. It puts up boundaries that only you have control over. You can move those boundaries without someone else’s validations if you have learned the NO’s. Both how to say “No” so you don’t take on more than you should do, spend, or indulge. Hearing No from those that say you shouldn’t go further in debt, have another drink or leave the lights on is a kindness not a constraint.

Other people’s concerns matter, the mess we make in our backyards matter, the debt we create matter, the waste we make for the world matters. Our kindness to others with raising the red flag of NO matters. If you’ve been across the bridge and it is weak, than share the NO with fellow travelers.

No, this thought process is not right. It has created the millenials.

No is part of the journey we must take in stride. The journey has black & white, ups & downs. It will be far more exciting if you know your on a roller coaster vs a flat train ride, preparing for it is the key.

Hugs, Pam

The Roadside Philosopher

To Copy is to Lose! Be Unique…

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When you imitate another you will always lose. You can never be the same as the original. So the best you can hope for is second place.

We often compare ourselves to others. I am not as strong as he is; or I don’t have her beautiful hair. This list goes on and on with things we are not as good as someone else. 

But no matter who you compare yourself to, one thing is certain… they will come in second if they try to be you.

You are unique. A huge component of strengths and weaknesses that spin a composite that no one can rightly imitate. There is beauty in that. There is also wonder. Every snowflake is unique. Why is that? 

Where do we get this compulsion to be like everyone else? Why does someone else get to dictate how another should be?

Almost everything in the universe has uniqueness. Nothing is exactly like something else. The trees are all different, animals, rocks…I am sure if we were to be able to discern completely the components of insects and molecules there would be uniqueness.

So why is everyone trying to be like…? I need to dress like so & so. I want to be cool and hip like…? You are cool and hip & YOU. Don’t follow.

When you interact with someone they hand you the rules, sometimes they do it with their dress. (I am a Dr so you have to treat me like X.) So we take our cues from the mannerisms, dress, and customs of the culture. That is all fine and good when you wish to play someone else’s game.

You can never win someone else’s game, because THEY have set the rules and will change them so you can’t. So play your OWN game. Make up your own rules. Hand off the cues to others so they will treat you the way you wish to be treated. We create our reality. We don’t need others to buy into it for it to be our reality. We need to be unique, our fully unique self. One that follows our passions.   

If you are a dog person…be totally that. Don’t let the “I love soccer” people rain on your parade. We all have different directions our soul takes us, just like water freezes in a snowflake with unique directions. Does that mean we are not a snowflake? 

Be your passion. Create your game. If your idea of points is how many licks your dog gives you…and that makes you happy, then that is your game and the points. You don’t need to be a speed skater, a great painter, or worse of all… The points are $/money. That means you are competing with the world for points that don’t bring you happiness. 

There is awesomeness in those that think for themselves. I marvel when I see a person no one else talks to because they don’t look the same. I WANT to talk to someone unique. I am drawn to the people who have not taken sheephood as a religion.

Look in the mirror. Marvel at the being that is you. Make you all that your passion and direction wish to be. *wink* I will be looking for you!

Enjoy the journey. Hugs Pam

The Honeymoon of a New Relationship

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When a new connection is made, life is a whirlwind.

Trying to make your significant other happy. Hoping that as they get to know you they don’t hit an impossible roadblock. (Nope, I can’t be with someone that clips their toenails in bed…type thing)

It is as stressful as it is exciting. Will the rough edges of the two of you eventually interlock? Can he/she be everything they are portraying? Are they lying? Playing you? Are they just a leech and will run out on you when you can not provide any more stuff? All those thoughts run constantly in the back of your mind as your emotions and desire for the ultimate fairytale relationship continue to race to the infinity sign of the universe. This has GOT to be IT!

There are those that find a perfect relationship and ruin it with all their questions and fears. How can you get past that knowing at any moment it can all come crashing down on you? 

My solution: Nothing is perfect. People change. For every “Hello” there will be a “goodbye”. (even if it ends at the death bed)  So there you have it. 

“What?” you say? That is a very dismal attitude.  No, it is a very freeing attitude. It allows you to forgive in advance the eventual demise of that honeymoon closeness, which will come. 

The honeymoon phase of any relationship will shift and change. Nothing can ever be the first kiss, or first orgasim with your new partner. People remember firsts. Once you have gotten past that you have other things to discover, but they will be different. It is a good thing to understand that.

Once you make up your mind to attempt a merging, live it to its fullest. Do not question yourself. You have chosen a leg in your maze of life, some will be good, some will be bad. Nothing will stay the same, but this is an exciting journey. Don’t dampen your full engagement with this experiment to play with doubts and troubles that have not arisen yet.

Too many people are doing the “Well, I will stick my toe in the water.” not fully committed to exploring, discovering, changing and merging. Guess what? If you only give a bit…you will only get a bit. That is something no one wants. So give it your all. In for an ounce…in for a ton, good, bad, or ugly you are choosing this path. If it crashes and burns, that is ok because you forgave in advance. 

It then becomes totally freeing. Enjoy this upswing of feelings. Know that it most likely will end and certainly change. But many things end. The roller coaster ride ends; the last bite of the banana split ends; your favorite book and movie end…none of those endings will stop you from choosing to engaging in them just because they will end. Why should you require infinity for a relationship to be true and worthwhile?

Engaging with life shouldn’t end, until your life ends. Be comfortable with being the fool, because that step off the precipice will be one hell of a ride. lol

Hugs, Pam

April Fools…?

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We are all strange in our approach to our existence.

NO ONE likes to be the fool. No one enjoys being the brunt of a practical joke, but yet we hail the jester that can pull it off?

It is fun to see someone else fall, get scared or embarrassed. Why is that?

The internet holds an extra layer of anonymity that makes it even easier to set someone else up for an untruth. We can create multiple personalities, stories, and attacks and feel it is not us…it is just a joke. 

Trolls & griefers have separated themselves in their mind from their actions, because “It was all for a laugh.” So the philosophical questions are “Where ARE we? & Where do we begin and end?” The line seems to be drawn in different places. 

If we do harm: it wasn’t my intention… If we all laugh it was because of me.

I was a professional clown and could play the fool, knowing… I was setting myself up… I was the one pretending to be surprised. People enjoy watching things go awry. 

If we were God, having that same propensity, we could look at this existence with greater humor. Existence is always pulling tricks on us. What we think will happen and what does happen, rarely match.

The answer to the confusion is intent. Selfish or generous? Did you put honey on the toilet seat to make them laugh or you? Did you slip the money in their shoe, knowing the surprise would delight both you and them?

Simple rule: Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.

This April Fools Day enjoy the delight of the absurd and the surprises. Be creative, just be mindful of what you create may go awry. Everyone’s perception is different.

Enjoy the journey. Life is too important to take too seriously from our only one perspective.

Hugs, Pam

The Vacuum of a Break-Up

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What people are totally unprepared for when a breakup occurs is the vacuum.

Now a spot that has always been filled is gone? That hollow feeling, which repeatedly screams something-is-missing eats away at any resolve that constituted the breakup originally.

Vacuums are uncomfortable. Change is uncomfortable. Being a free ion probably is uncomfortable. Whenever there is a need to break, whether it be with a career choice, a significant other, a geographical location that is loved, anything that we considered ours and part of our identity …now missing, gives us that hollow feeling.

Some people are so distressed by it that they will return to a bad situation just because it is better than the vacuum they feel inside. Abused women and children have been known to do this, men return to a bad job all because their identity can not stand the vacuum. Their identity has been painfully depleted.

This is when an imagination is important. Create a new you. That image might initially be missing a leg, but it will walk. That hollow inside is very noticeable but you have to remember…Nature abhors a vacuum. Something will come fill it. Be cautious what you let fill it, because usually it is very nearly the same as you escaped.

We often do that. Grab the familiar, and put ourselves in the exact same situation. I do it as well. (gasps) 

Vacuums are opportunities to choose again. Remake yourself again. Being comfortable with a vacuum is a difficult thing. I wish I could give you an easy solution, but I can’t. Recognize the vacuum. Mourn the lost, and be very choosy as what to let replace it.

Life wouldn’t be fun if it were easy, so enjoy the journey.

Hugs, Pam

OMG…or Not! (When Bad Things Happen)

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Bad Things Happen.

Life is a near death experience.

You have a disappointment or a biological snafoo and your first and only thought jumps to your worst fear. 

You are now using the little amount of positive energy you have toward, What? You are focusing your plot/story toward destruction.

Many of us read novels, biographies and movies, which as a requirement of interest, there is a major hiccup that has to be overcome. If there isn’t such a catastrophe there is no reason to read the book, watch the movie or even have bothered with the story, right?

Yet, our first tendency when faced with a staring-up-in-the-face-of-the-paramedic moment is to doom ourselves with, “This is the end!” We wall ourselves into a story that takes in no other possible alternative.

What if WE were the movie? We would watch the character chagrined at their dilemma and wait for the working out of the resolution. We think, “This is bad…or not?”

This is what I would like to add to our dilemmas of life. When a crushing blow hits…acknowledge the OMG moment but add to your thoughts…or not? You will find you can step out of the situation for a moment and see it as a storyline with multiple possibilities. It is now elevated to an “interesting” component of a greater story. This allows yourself to conceptualize other possibilities. 

Just that little bit of optimism makes the world of difference. You now have an escape route. 

Tons of studies have been done to see what aids in recovery of patients and a positive, purposeful outlook has had the greatest effect. Whether it is religion, family, job, goals or your spirit to persevere, that optimism is the key.

So how much more important is it to have that positive outlook when faced with non-lethal possibilities? Your love left you; you didn’t get the job, you lost the house, these are now just components of a greater story which is your life.

The movie of your existence is far more interesting now. So this tragedy is the last blow…OR NOT?

Enjoy the journey, both the ups and downs. Hugs, Pam