Category: Society

Observations on US societal constructs

The “Vista Starved” are angry!

On By adminIn Insight Blog, Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment

As the Roadside Philosopher I wanted to shout and point fingers and get angry during the government declared pandemic. I had to wait till I sorted things a bit.

I have watched in horror the confusion that keeps mounting in our world societies and I think I finally have figured out the cause!

“Vista starvation”! It often occurs in cities, but can be found rurally as well. In the cities they can’t see the sky or the horizon. They are literally limited by their vision. It is hard to know where you are in the world if you only see a box of a humanity-made world. With that frame of reference they expect the “city” to take care of them. They are immersed in the belief that there is a benevolent government that should make all their wishes come true. If they want water, there should be water and the city should make that so.

The belief system is always around “me, myself and I” and the government is suppose to make things ok for us. Therefore, only humanity and our government can wave the magic wand to make things right. If things aren’t right, i have a right to blame everyone else. We are only a peg in the board of the things we can perceive. Everything else is an illusion. Only my human-centric way is of value, because that’s all I can see. So I am right, you are wrong.

Vista starvation also pertains to our historical context. We have no vision nor wish to know what life was in the past. When we ignore history… like the old adage goes, We are doomed to repeat it.

This goes the other way of vista starvation with the rural perspective. They live as if the past is the only thing of value. If you did not have family here for several generations you are devalued. They block incoming information that could be very valuable and deny there is anything out there that will dislodge their vision of what reality has always been.

What the rural people have over urban is they get to see horizons and sky. They know that this distance means you have to do things yourself. The chance of the government helping you is nil..in fact, it is government who comes out and takes and rules illogically their world. Those who don’t understand, push their laws and rules without knowing the culture or environment they are attempting to control.

Seeing things from a bigger picture is scary. We realize times were always worse than we have now. Does gratitude ever come into the picture? No, because if every morning water comes out of the faucet and the sun always rises, well then everything else doesn’t matter. No need to seek, to understand…Always will be always. Hmmm

So what can we do? My optimistic solution is cultural apprenticeships. Do a compulsory month cross culture experience. Have a city person come to the country… have a rural person be apprenticed in urban life.

Travel has always been an eye-opening experience. Why not have culture experience cross pollination. Understanding has to be the motivation. Can we get curiosity revived?

My life epitaph goes like this:

First we have to acknowledge that NO ONE knows everything.

Then this should be the solution of understanding: “We do not live for reality; we live for our fantasies! Enjoy yours… but don’t force your story on others.”

Racism and LGBTQIA’s all want what we all want. To belong to a belief, whether that is determined by skin color or sex orientation or the belief that we are really a horse. Whatever belief that makes us happy. Belonging IS the need.

Religions and governments are all over the map in belief systems, but it is only when we try to force our belief on others. Force feeding the claim that truth can only be accepted by so-called experts is VERY limited. You can only talk if your male, or black or your hair is purple stops progress and ends peace.

New thoughts are exciting and cross-pollination of ideas is what makes new successes.

Seek to see vistas…horizons where you are really only a small part. The wider your vision of vistas the more peace you will have. When we have gratitude and think larger than ourselves THEN we will belong. We belong to our family, our city block, our favorite bar, our city, our nation, our planet, our position in the universe. No matter what group you affiliate with… make your gratitude larger than you and be grateful for that belonging.

Hugs, Pam

The Roadside Philosopher

Whoops of 2004

On By Pamala CliftIn Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment
Corporations

2004 Whoops

(Whispers) Identity matters

Who am I? …. I?

I maybe black, white, yellow, red

I maybe rich or poor

I maybe happy or sad

I maybe a girl or on the sliding scale to boy

I may have difficulties as I walk, talk, or breath

I laugh, cry and someday I die

 I am just ONE.

Just One.

Just One.  

One with an identity.

I am a person!

I live in America 

a country of persons

Then the great WHOOPS of 2004

And no longer do I breath in and out.

Because I am a corporation with lots of voices, committees, money and influence so NOW I’m labeled a PERSON! And i do not die!

It’s the whoops of 2004

And we turned our country away from persons

To massive money corporations

I will shout from the top of the steeple

Corporations are not PEOPLE!

We turned over our power,

We turned over our cares,

We turned over our well being to corporations

Which only care about power & money

Wonder why we are where we are.

We made a Whoops of 2004

Shout it from the steeple

Corporations are not People

————

I don’t do poems often in my life, but sometime being succinct and painting a picture in the mind is an excellent way to communicate.

Hugs, Pam

Science vs Policy

On By Pamala CliftIn Education, SocietyLeave a comment

For those of us who have worked with science or scientists its amazing to think that people take such a religious zealousness over this insane dogma.

Science Dogma

Science is made up of people. People who work hard to get noticed, gain material wealth and just try to survive. The construct of science now is: I will hire you or give you funding if you can prove my theory and make my product sell, or validate me. Gone are the days of “I wonder if I can make this happen or solve this problem.” Huge labs with many people working only on parts of someone’s project, they don’t even know what the final goal is, “Just do your pipets.”

Then you hear of Theranos blood test. So many levels of hidden truths, of taking advantage of those who do not understand but accept the “expert” as being GOD. We all can’t know ALL. We specialize in our own little world and rely on marketing to tell us the truth. OMG, did you just hear what I said? Marketing is truth… (cries in her hands).

As I have watched the internet, “SEE Me, SEE me” mentality, which seems to be all that is valued anymore, I am horrified. How loud shouting, “I am the best. I am the expert. Buy from me.” Is considered right? Your value is now how many views you have or LIKEs. Function is no longer a component of success, noise is.

All that is obviously a sad state of affairs that anyone with more than one generational perspective could tell you. What I want to address is Science vs Policy.

We have this thing saying, “It’s based on Science”. Let me review science. Science is the slow observational collection of data, more data and still more data. Then it is the horrific puzzling out of that data to see if we can find any patterns or rhyme and reasons from it. Science is hindsight! Science is AFTER the facts have been observed. The proper analysis needs to be done, which unfortunately takes time.

Policies are for the future, the forward component, based on science data, which should have been given that horrible component of Time needed for analysis. BUT we don’t have time and are forced to use value-based conjectures. Let me give you an example…

Well I know from accumulated experiments that every time I walk down the hall I trip at the same place… (that is the data. I can add dates and times, what I was wearing, who I was with etc. All this is data) .

So what to do about that data going forward. The policy makers then create “the policy” and chooses according to their values. “Whatever should we do with this data going forward?” We could…

1. Remove the rug

2. Goose step so my feet are high enough that I don’t trip

3. Get glasses

4. Change to a flatter rug.

5. Tape the rug down.

6. Remodel the house and remove the hall.

7. Buy a new house.

8. Kill the cat.

The list can go on… ALL of these options are based on the data of me tripping at that spot. So the government picks one of these value-based solutions and claims THAT is the answer based on science, which is the hindsight of collected data. All of the above options have equal validity because the Time component of data analysis is not available.

So the policy makers who believe no good emergency can be left unmaximinzed say, “Hey, this huge company can make money if we say it is this… and Bam, that selection is forced down throats with the marketing shouts. “Buy a new house this one is dangerous. You can’t argue with us, its based on science!”

The reality might just have been the toe of your slipper catches the carpet. Nothing to do with the house or the cat, but someone has made FORWARD policy decisions based on science.

It is fun actually not to know everything. I spend my life exploring endless thought processes and the psychology of the internet. The internet has gone sideways and I can not foresee a way to backtrack.

Critical thinking has been shouted down.

So following suit… Listen to me! I’m the expert. Stop believing everything you hear!

He he…Enjoy the journey!

Hugs, Pam

Election Sadness

On By Pamala CliftIn Insight Blog, SocietyLeave a comment
Somebody’s Lion seems a little fishy.

I am listed as an independent. I have a hard time buying into any group’s confines. I won’t go into where I differ with each party but I do know one thing. I know when things look bad.

First I noticed when one side said there was some voting discrepancies and the mainstream media just announced they won’t even mention the concerns and forcefully claimed there “WAS No Fraud”. Wait a minute, there is never a time you can say something does NOT exist. Examination is not a bad thing.

Then the wonderful free internet got highjacked and people’s wonderings got banned. They kept government videos offline so as to require me to find other venues. I listened to hours of some very convincing observations that continually got dismissed by judges who refused to hear the cases on stupid “Moot or Standing” claims that no one is allowed to question.

I hear the words of one of the owners of the Dominion voting machines say in an Antifa phone meeting to which he belonged, “Don’t worry I fixed it so Trump can’t win.” So does anyone get to examine the machine software? Do they get to examine the audit records…no because they don’t have them. Machines are sequestered and reset. RED Flag!

The owners of the Dominion belong to the Clinton Foundation, another red flag. Banks make sure their software is examined and verified but the 3 person verification company is owned by the same people? Kinda like Boing verifying their own planes.

No one can stop them because no one has a free internet anymore. If something is true, you should not be afraid to examine.

Silencing opposition with shout downs is not right. Open discussion is always the only way forward. This might have been the first time the public would have had a chance to hear the evidence in question.

Yet, even though, anyone can put on a red hat and chant and riot…which by the way, successfully silenced the discussion…the thought strikes me…So who had the greatest reason to shut down that discussion?

We do not live for reality; …apparently we live for what we are told to believe.

Hugs, Pam

Still with Climate Change?

On By Pamala CliftIn Education, Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment
A part of a universal system

Scientific provability… I don’t know how many of you have actually done a scientific-method experiment, but it requires first to make a hypothesis, then to create a control group and change one item in the experimental group, run the experiments exactly and compare the results to validate your hypothesis.

Someone please show me the control group for the other earth, where there are no human carbon emissions. This is the Only way you can claim it is scientifically proven. Of course, it should be replicate-able by your peer group without fail to become fact.

The social media that keeps saying “98% of scientists agree”, should be a red flag right there that this is gossip not fact. If you put any hundred scientists in a room you will never get that ratio, even if the consensus was only that “The sky is blue.” Scientists are people and people just don’t agree like that. Now if they wanted to have a measure of believability, they should have claimed maybe 68%.

Does that make me an idiot that wants to trash the planet? No, I’m old. I’ve watched climate through these last few score of years, from multiple locations. Fact, climate changes. It changes in yearly cycles, in decade cycles, in million year cycles, etc.

Our science is the best it’s ever been. Yes, and no. We have more tools than ever, but we still can only fractionally measure only a few components with any degree that allows us predictability. (Unless research is paid for by a special interest group)

Predictability is the point here. We are pretty good at saying “when we do this, that happens” After we have done the experiment many times. But, to predict any hurricane’s path, even with our best guess we often fail, simply because we do not have all the components.

I try to be kind when yelled at by those that quote things as final and absolute. (As a philosopher there are no absolutes… ) Did you take into account the fungi rally going on underground? Or the shifting magnetic poles? Our place in the universe and it’s activities? Do we measure every point on the globe and average each day? Or are our measurements only taken mostly in the northern hemisphere next to urban areas? Data is only as good as the instrument used, the manner in which it is collected, the calculations and Spin the research is finally presented as and if it is replica-table. So very many variables.

Does that give us a reason to trash the planet? No! I hate the “rape for profit” mentality that this current culture processes. I hate single use plastic bottles in our oceans. No one should think their actions don’t have impact.

I’m all for making our use of things recyclable, and intelligent use of our resources, but please don’t let the propaganda that “They know all” be your influencer.

What does this have to do with human/computer interface psychology? We get a good portion of our information from online, and the wonderful diversity of opinions, but if we do not think things through and use number-of-likes vs critical thinking, we will all go down the toilet together…at least 98% of us. Lol

Enjoy the journey!

Hugs,

Pam

Thank you for your Service!

On By Pamala CliftIn Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment

WE are doing it WRONG!

I listened to a Podcast about how Norway is the fairest country to women in the workplace, but for some reason still do not have many management level females. Norway gives the most time off for maternity leave. So maybe they will give the same amount of leave for the men, so hiring either gender would not lend to prejudice.

OMG! The problem stated was: Why are women not coming back to work and choose to stay home with their children? Really? We need to make them be a part of the economic workforce. Who would want to babysit the young? That’s NOT as important as helping in the workforce to make money for others?

OK, first of all, women bare children. All the legislature in the world is not going to change that it is women that have to bare the children. The problem is NOT why don’t women come back to work, its Why are we shaming them for supporting the next generation!

Yet, women who devote themselves as mothers to advance the next age of humanity are of no value. We huff if their children are noisy or make a mess in stores or other public venues. We watch them struggle and feel that if they were good at their job this annoyance wouldn’t bother us.

No wonder our population is dwindling. To bring a child into the world is looked on as a hinderance. Condolences go out to those women who find themselves in a family way. “You have just lost any chance at your career.”

Career is king. Make money for the overlords… money is the only value. And for some strange reason we are buying into that horrible encrusted game.

As a society we spend our efforts saying, “Thank you for your service.” To those who put their life on the line to advance our political agenda and get paid for their time being ordered around. We grant them value in our society.

Of course, the political agenda is motivated by those in power wanting more control. Hence the US is the demon of the world. We take what we want and force others to comply. We thank our service men for taking lives but shame our women who give life?

Being a mom has never been a glamour career choice. Never has wiping noses and doing laundry been the high point of any day. However, it is those women who pick up AGAIN, make meals AGAIN, read another story or travel to pick or deliver kids AGAIN that teach the children by example that the world has complications, but you can arise and conquer with endurance.

Working people get to point to things they have done. I built that building. I made this much money. I saved the project, person, or idea. Our society complements these “point-to-able” but superficial accomplishments. All will end.

The human race, if it is going to survive will ONLY be so if there are women baring children. If they stop, we stop.

We are dwindling in our population. Hence, we are not going to be a problem for this planet much longer as we self-indulge ourselves out of existence. No one wants to sacrifice their life for some ungrateful little stranger that we are forced to constantly please. That’s what gets communicated in our society’s movies and films.

Third our children are not being taught, they are being appeased. We have legislated that we cannot say NO to the kids. Everyone is supposed to be special and cherished and life is always rainbows and unicorns. This leaves us with totally uninstructed children who grow up believing in what? Certainly not themselves. They are depressed and wonder why the real world doesn’t bow down to their every need? Hence, we get a rash of suicides.

The only way you can take pride in yourself is by your own accomplishments. The harder the deeds are when you succeed, the more power you can see in yourself. You are of value. But that is not what this society says. Parents: you need to yell at the teachers for not giving your child an A… instead of addressing your child for not doing the work.

So instead of saying 100 yards is the goal you keep moving the goal post closer, so little Jimmy can get his reward with less effort.

We need to value hard work, selflessness, ethics and stop making everything a marketable commodity.

Moms have previously been known for their selflessness, not condemned for it. They do not get any pay, retirement benefits and rarely any thanks from the children and they literally have chosen to sacrifice their lives in the service to the species.

So, the next time you see the chaos that surrounds a frustrated mother in a public place. Thank them for their service… and maybe offer to help.

You will enjoy the journey more if you contribute. Hugs, Pam

(I was in the military and so was my father. I was a Navy brat. He had to go to war and sacrificed a lot. I totally value my father’s effort and do not mean to devalue our appreciation to our warriors but…we are not at war needing to defend our county at the moment…a little balance of perspective please.)

Nature vs #MeToo

On By Pamala CliftIn Interpersonal Relationships, Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment

Pamala Clift: Posted on Saturday, October 06, 2018 11:01 AM

We are all trying to get closer to nature with our food and work-life balance. We understand that fighting nature is a huge uphill battle.

We seek forest walks, the vistas over water or mountains, clean food, trying to get back to our proper place on this spinning globe. Now if we truly value nature and seek to understand our place. There are some very valuable facts that need to be considered.

Men are physically stronger than women. That is a fact, not speculation. (Of course there are exceptions)

We also know that nature does some major changes in both male and female children during that horrible state known as teenager hood . Arrgh! Controlling this state of our human growth cycle isn’t probable. Hormones surge and wain as teenagers try to figure out who they are.

This was obvious enough that in our courts, criminal offenses done before turning 18 are not considered part of your adult record.

Now we have the #MeToo movement saying a man is guilty vs memories from a hormonal female about a hormonal male doing teenager stuff that was not even a crime had he been an adult? Sigh.(Kavanaugh)

This is what I would like to have as a take away from this whole crazy episode. Females are rabbits. Males are coyotes.

Everyone should teach their daughters that they need to brace for males as a possibly uncontrollable force of nature. Just like not jumping off a mountain ledge. You don’t hold gravity responsible for your damage?

Young males are coyotes. Not because they choose this, but because nature knows that if a rabbit runs, the coyote will chase. Education can possibly slow this, but we can not count on it.

As women we should know entering this stage of life needs to be prepared for as a battle. We don’t dress to raise that hormonal tidal wave and increase our possibility of nature trumping cultural restrains.

We don’t go putting ourselves in the lair of the coyotes (especially with inhibition-lowering components such as drugs and alcohol) and expect to come out unscathed.

I’m all for the #MeToo movement within reason. I have, and my daughters have been violated wrongly because we are females. We are rabbits and we live amid coyotes. I hate being the victim because I am not the physically stronger gender. Men using their power of position to take advantage or forcefully gratifying their needs on the weaker sex, needs to be curtailed. But we women need to help. It isn’t ALL their fault.

If the rabbit didn’t run, the coyote most likely wouldn’t have chased.

We need to be aware of our environment and the natural world we exist in, and not blindly think we have a fairy God Mother who will make everything ok.

Islam puts the fault that men’s hormones run wild- all on women. Women should be curtailed from being seen so that the poor male’s hormones don’t have their energies redirected. Most of us can see how wrong that view point is…

So we have the pendulum now going the other way with the #MeToo movement. It is all on the men to master their hormones.

Ok, gals… master your monthly cycle right now… stop crying, stop feeling the way you feel. Your irrationality around this time of the month needs to STOP!… That is not likely to happen either. Mostly because during that time of the month THINKING is not the dominate component. The same thing goes for guys.

This is the natural world we live in. We are animals of this construct. We need to help each other deal with things that are outside our cultural norms and conflict with natural impulses.

Do your best not to blame just one side. We are all on this journey together!

Hugs, Pam

Trump Grandparent Expectorate Disease

On By Pamala CliftIn Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment

Not Again!

You know how it is with new grandparents? 

“Oh, Look how cute he is!”, “Isn’t that adorable when he drools like that?”, “Oh he ate his peas for the first time today.”… on and on they go about every fart, movement, or owie.

Everyone can only take so much of listening to every success, failure or boo boo the new baby has just done. We all try to find something else to do, or appointment we suddenly need to attend, to get away from another rendition of bodily activities of their new arrival.

Well that would seem somewhat logical if it was the Republicans chanting on and on about their winner… but it is not so. 

Democrats have become Trump Grandparents spewing out every little body movement, belch, conjecture of intent… “Oh, he is so going to be the worse (fill in negative expectorant here).”  I have to listen on the news every possible conjecture about the new addition to our government. They are publicity overloading Trump. HE doesn’t matter. What happens with our country’s laws and their impact does.

What is worse is I can’t even go on social media to see what my friends are doing without getting opinions on every movement, stance and speculation about their darling little fart.

Keeping constant awareness of the “new arrivals” next body-bowel movement is NOT NEWS, NOT desired and of no value.

The best thing for the USA is to talk about the issues and not the joker figure that symbolizes worse fears. 

When did we get so figure centric that “The Person” not what is happening becomes our major topic. What does that say about us as a citizenry?  Are we only capable of talking about Entertainment? Superficialities are the ONLY thing we can focus on?

Great Minds Discuss Ideas; Average Minds Discuss Events; Small Minds Discuss People (A quote often attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt but is under question). The bottom line is this pretty much labels correctly where are thoughts are and the level of effectiveness they render.

My liberal friends and my conservative friends need to work on what we can do about the changes in our government. If money to our favorite charity is being cut, let US step up and help cover it. Since when is the Federal Government supposed to be all things to all people. Why are we giving money in taxes so we have NO SAY on how it is spent.

Please focus on OUR journey and enjoy that journey. I know I am starting small, but I am running for city council. Get involved and lets make things work.

Hugs, Pam

(The Roadside Philosopher)

The Game of Plausible Deniability

On By Pamala CliftIn Philosopher comments on Reality, SocietyLeave a comment

It saddens me when it takes sooo much work to help people understand and see “The forest for the trees.”

This is a critical skill, especially in today’s political roller coaster with perceptional “fake news”.

You have all heard me say my one phrase of wisdom I have learned in my life. “We do not Live for Reality; We live for our fantasies….Enjoy Yours!”

I am about to lay out some words that hopefully will not offend on a topic that perfectly displays the title of this blog. “The Game of Plausible Deniability”. The subject matter I will use to illustrate it is Ultrasounds on fetus.

I was chastised at work for congratulating a patient for choosing NOT to have an ultrasound. I mentioned how mental problems like ADHD and Aspergers seem to have a direct correlation to its use. Well that got me reamed by the corporation, when the patient had miscommunicated, and she had gotten one. She then decided to make me the bad guy for sharing with her that information since it made her feel bad, so she gave the place a bad review. Hmmm…

The corporation claimed for every negative research I found they could find something that disproved it. Ok let’s go through this step-by-step.

1. Follow the Money: This is always the first thing in the search for truth.

How many horrible occurrences have happened because a drug or procedure was claimed safe and rendered to women only to have the difficulty be shown later in births or children? 

Corporations follow the cigarette campaign steps of plausible deniability. 

     First-claim it is safe

     Second-claim there is not enough valid research and make no effort to research their own product. 

     Third-if demands for data increase, hire scientists to manipulate results (since they are paying for the data it comes out as they desire—I have witnessed this process first hand. Not by all though).

     Fourth- then as data and results can no longer be denied, express their concern that they got different information and still claim no fault due to ignorance and avoid prosecution.

This is a normal spin situation that is a well-known corporate methodology. Keep the product in the market as long as it can receive a profit. 

2. On the other hand….There is NO advantage to any researcher to report a white paper that goes contrary to convention. It has hurt many scientist, as they get black-balled, since the money for their research comes from either the corporations directly or Federal funds that also are used to validate the status quo. 

It is definitely a horrible occurrence for researchers to have scientific proof of something that they have tested and retested but then have their research squashed because a large corporation goes with the plausible deniability game. 

Corporations have the money to move their search results to the top of Google. They have the money to hire the less scrupled scientists. They can pay to flood the search results with ? opinions to push down the real white paper research. 

I personally met one of the PhD students that worked on one of these many studies as he expressed his deep-seated belief that their research was valid and families were being denied the correct information due to suppression from “Those with money.” 

His heart was sincere and his desire to get the word out was painfully apparent with his only motivation being altruistic. 

3. What Science Is: Scientific method is simply putting out a hypothesis and then testing it. Control groups…blind control groups all sorts of ways to test. But can anyone TEST with a control group how much an ultrasound diminishes IQ or mental agility? 

To do that you need two exact same subjects. Meaning two exact same mothers with the exact same child, one uses ultrasound and one that does not. Later test the IQ and mental agility of each child. …And you would have to do that multiple times to get sufficient data to validate. 

Well that can’t happen. So there can NOT be any real validating evidence saying that it is safe. All that can be done is say, “Well I am sure it is safe. Look at the cute picture.”

The only way that it can be used is blindly throwing the product out into the world and then AFTER the FACT, correlate data. That is what my PhD student and his mentor had done. It was definitely statistically relevant beyond speculation. But instead it was squashed.

The entire population of the world is being used as the experiment, and they are still trying to deny it.

4. What IS Ultrasound? It vibrates and heats so that it can be photographed. It sends the sound waves and receives the echoing waves. 

We have a fetus that is growing at phenomenal rates with cells splitting and dividing and restructuring into a complex human being. Then we stir up this process at What point in time? How many new functions are growing, splitting and configuring just at that moment? 

I’m thinking scrambled eggs here…

Yet vanity, lack of research and greed leads us to pretty pictures… and there you have the society of today. Make it look pretty, play the game of plausible deniability and do whatever you wish to extract money.

5. BTW there is research with mice now that says they have used control groups and have seen deterioration in the mice that had undergone ultrasound, but we are still getting our pretty pictures and we are still getting children with less mental capability. The poor parents that have an Asperger child are drained of all resources, but you still won’t see any give from the corporations. Even some of the ultrasound associations say that they can not claim that no harm will happen and discourage use unless medically needed.

Maybe I am cynical or maybe I am a realist… You choose. 

Please just be aware of your journey and turn no decision over to the masses, corporations or politics. They all have something to hide, gain or manipulate.

For my political friends. One side is boisterous and doesn’t think about the consequences of what they say… The other side has mastered the subtleties, but BOTH manipulate. They are living their fantasy, as are we all. 

Be conscience of your decisions, not compulsively following.

Enjoy the journey.

Hugs, Pam

(Roadside Philosopher)